When people realize that a disability—their own or a loved one’s—is going to be permanent, they may express a variety of reactions from shock to fear to grief to anger. There is no "right" way to respond. People generally react according to what the disability means to them and just how much it is going to affect or change their lives. Generally speaking, those who accept and make adjustments for their new reality will have an easier time coping. If you’ve developed a disability, acknowledge your limitations, but concentrate on what you can do and how you can adapt to do even more. Set realistic goals, and approach life as a challenge, not an effort.