Home should be a place where children feel truly comfortable talking freely about their likes and dislikes, their friends and their feelings. In that kind of open atmosphere, children hopefully will feel comfortable turning to their parents or another trusted adult with life's ups and downs.

If you notice a change in your child's behavior, have a heart-to-heart talk. Find a comfortable place where you won't be interrupted and talk with your child in a concerned and non-threatening way. Ask teachers and school administrators if there's a problem at school and, if so, ask them for help.

Here are some strategies for promoting good communication with your children and an atmosphere to help them thrive:

• Remind them how much they're loved with hugs, words and gestures appropriate from a parent.
• Listen - really listen - to your children.
• Build confidence and self-esteem in your children by "catching" them being good. Look for situations to say "congratulations," "way to go" or "good job."
• Support your children's involvement in extracurricular activities, sports and hobbies of their choice.
• Show interest in your children's schoolwork and activities
• Get to know your children's teachers and caregivers.
• Get to know your children's friends and their families.
• Respect an older child's need for privacy, but don't ignore the continued need for parental supervision and involvement.
• If you're overwhelmed by a family problem, seek the assistance of a trained counselor or clergy person.